In recent conversations, I’ve been very aware of 1) deep human longing to share love with another and 2) lack of understanding that relational problems have their source in inner energetic patterns.
On the surface may be behaviours that cause separation rather than connection. Underneath self protective behaviours are the energetic residue of past traumatic experiences.
The truth is that when sabotaging patterns remain unresolved, they will repeat with another person, albeit in a slightly different way.
Let’s consider three situations, that are quite common, in my experience.
1- A woman who is still so hurt by a betrayal that led to divorce that she doesn’t think she can trust anyone again. The marriage ended 10 years ago and she hasn’t dated since.
2- A woman who remains in a long term relationship that appears to others to be good. But the difficult dynamics, not seen on social occasions by others, are destroying her soul and her sanity.
3- A woman who is in a relationship that seems more healthy and promising than those in the past. As she has relaxed into the relationship and found trust in her partner, she is surprised to discover something in herself that limits a deepening into what she intuits to be her full sexual potential.
I wish the same for my clients as I do for myself – to be a fully expressed human being. This often requires courage to move beyond a comfort zone, followed by dedication to a transformational process.
Transformation is more easily accomplished with a specific type of support that includes: confidence in your ability to grow, holding at your growing edge and the objective vision to guide you forward.
Here are the indications that coaching might help you.
- if you know you are caught defensive/self protective strategies that have become habitual
- if you can’t move forward because of the lack of completion of a previous relationship
- you keep attracting people and situations that deplete your energy
Difficult dynamics make sense when considered from an energetic point of view. A solution awaits – Relational Mastery.