Let go of the past and begin every day at a higher level of love. ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
In 1998, I moved from urban London to leafy Surrey as a newly single mother. I went through an incredibly costly marriage and divorce – emotionally and financially. Afterwards, my friends commented on how the person I used to be had ‘disappeared.’
I moved to Surrey to lick my wounds while living in harmony with nature, honouring my body, my desires and my intuition. I was also determined to change my relationship ‘fortune.’
I wish I could tell you that resolve was all it took. But, the fact is that resolve is simply the first step.
What about you?
I know you’re an amazing woman. You’re competent and responsible, with passions, ideals and ambitions.
You want to be a whole woman – a mother, a lover, a professional – while also being valued just for being you.
However, despite your ideals, you’ve found yourself in relationships that seemed promising at the start but, at some point you realised…..‘It’s happening again..…’
Maybe the man became increasingly unavailable…. or increasingly controlling…. the longer you were together.
My guess is that such a relationship has ended recently.
Whether you were dating for a short time or in a relationship that was moving towards a bigger commitment, such as marriage or moving in together, the pain of loss has hit you hard.
And in that place, it’s easy to put the blame on the man concerned.
You wonder if the real problem, as female folklore suggests, is an extreme shortage of emotionally competent men. In which case, you are probably asking whether relationships are worth your effort at all. Maybe its better to stay single? At least, then, you are in control of your own life. At least, then, no one can take you down.
However, the deeper truth is that you see other women in committed relationships with good men. (It must be possible then….)
Your friends tell you that you are a good catch. And, you’ve tried so hard.
After all, relationships take work. Right? So, one of your patterns is to make a lot of effort and keep working on them.
The effort is exhausting. The lack of true support is disheartening. The endings are painful and sometimes turn toxic.
You’ve had enough. You know you have a big heart. But, it has been through a lot of bruising and damaging.
It is normal to feel guarded when you are wary about encountering more of the same. But, there’s a double bind in your strategy. If you don’t risk, you may stay safe. However, you then don’t get to experience your full potential AND your heart closes in self protection.
- Write off dating and relationships and stay single for the rest of your life (even though you deeply love companionship, intimacy and connection).
- Discover what still remains hidden to you and stop allowing old patterns (and the brain chemistry associated with them) to control your life – in devastating ways.
Before you decide, take a moment to imagine what would it be like to live with a more open heart and less defensiveness when your relational wounds are triggered. Sense the freedom and joy!
It’s time to restore your energies and evolve beyond your relationship wounds. It’s time to engage with the energies of attraction differently. It’s time to know how and when to let go.
If you agree, book a no obligation chat with me to find out what the results of working with me might be for you.
There is a brief outline below of Relational Freedom’s alluring, divine, earthy, luscious, promising, and ravishing content, which will be tailored to your specific objectives and needs. (This programme can be likened to an essential luxury – like sensuous, organic, dark chocolate, the gorgeous scent of essential oils, the touch of silk on your skin or the cool sand beneath your feet on a summer evening beach walk.)
You will find this journey to be natural, nurturing, perceptive, provocative, relaxing, refreshing and renewing. You may have a few more adjectives afterwards.
Relational Freedom Journey
1. Your relationship to relationship
The programme begins with the creation of a strong foundation. We’ll be reviewing your relationship stories and identifying patterns. It’s likely that there is something you have not yet realised. I have a powerful process to elicit the so-called core wound that your stories revolve around. You will also take a guided journey to meet your inner Beloved, a pre requisite to creating the fertile ground for such a relationship to happen.
2. Cutting of ties
We’ll be considering anything that may be preventing you from moving forwards including past connections that feel incomplete, vicious cycles that you may find yourself in from time to time and heartbreak that remains unhealed. The time has come to move forward with kindness and forgiveness, starting with yourself. This can be challenging. But it is essential.
3. Your relationship to yourself
If you have been prioritizing the needs of others, it’s likely that parts of you remain hidden, untended and/or unheard. You may have done a lot of work on yourself. But, it is now time to broaden the context, deepen understanding of who you are and how you have expressed yourself through relationships in the past.
You will be introduced to exercises and practices that balance your masculine and feminine expressions of energy (and in the process re-ignite sacred shakti sexual energy).
4. Self Mastery
At this stage of the programme you will be called to step into your power, to establish the terms and conditions of your relationships and clear the points of view that may make it difficult to establish and hold boundaries. This will enable you to create a new model for your role in relationship and clarify the values you want to uphold. It will now be easier to step away from people who are not in alignment and situations that could turn toxic.
5. Path of freedom
The outcome of the programme is a particular type of freedom that includes: the freedom of self expression, the freedom to state boundaries, the freedom to know your sexual potential, the freedom of choice, the freedom of clear seeing and freedom from binding patterns and misplaced loyalties.
As a result of dissolving the defences that keep you safe (but lonely) and associated reactive patterns, you are able to follow your heart’s deep longings. Most importantly, you will know how to hold your power in relationship, which has nothing to do with entering into power battles.
The journey is one of increasing freedom and deepening love, irrespective of outer circumstances. What you learn will also benefit the non-romantic relationships in your life.
- You will have a map to guide your ongoing unfolding into the embrace of the sensuous, deep Feminine, partnered by the deep Masculine.
- You will have ongoing practices that support the continuing expansion of your feminine power strengths.
- You will feel more complete and happy within yourself, which may change the type of partner you look for – or the type of relationship you enter into. And if you are in a partnership, you may find it changes – for the better. (You could also decide that it is time for it to end.)
- Your broader vision for relationship includes your commitment to your work and your children. You will feel more grounded, more connected and more able to stay in your own energy field.
- You will understand the basic natural laws of energy including laws of attraction and the esoteric principles of right relationship.
- You will have clarity re the path of recovery from toxic connections and will have identified what has ‘hooked you’ in the past
- Most importantly, your natural, innate sexual/creative/shakti energy will be flowing and guiding your life.
A minimum 3 month commitment is required for this programme.
The journey features:
- Weekly coaching calls
- Daily connection during critical stages of your journey
- Practices to support your objectives
- Spiritual mentoring and guidance for your awakening
- Recorded meditations/visualisations to support the healing content
- Leading edge tools of Awakening and Deeper Love Coaching plus energy practices from the Feminine tantric wisdom traditions, in which I have been training for more than 10 years.
I know what it’s like to be in a situation that has turned toxic. I know what its like to feel that you’ve had enough. And I know what it’s like to heal and to forgive. If you’d like to hear more about how I might help you, please book a no obligation conversation.